Self-motivation is a tough topic to talk about. When it comes to motivation it is about what compels you to do something. What makes you perform a certain act.
It is a tough thing to discuss because having to motivate yourself would imply that you are doing something that is hard and which you don’t really want to do.
For me I think that anything worth achieving is going to involve some struggle. If you want to do something noteworthy there is going to be some hard yards involved.
The main thing is that with something worth achieving you will be up against some kind of competition.
There are ways to make sure that at least the burden of a task becomes easier. One of these is to just do it and not give it too much of a second thought.
But eventually we may find that things get laborious or we lose motivation.
A loss of motivation can come from a variety of factors. A big one is that you are not seeing results for your efforts.
This is a huge one. I mean why would you do something that is hard when you are not seeing results?
The other question that is worth asking is should we even have to do something hard?
We should be united in the knowledge that life involves constant struggle. We are fighting constantly to get to our end goal.
It should also be noted that there are other people who revel in this struggle.
There is a certain aspect of people that seek a challenge and want to be pushed.
This is a huge motivating force for a lot of people. The motivation to solve a problem.
Solving any problem represents all kinds of issues for most people.
But without struggle there is not going to be any reward.
It could be said that struggling gives us all a meaning in life.
People are competitors and they are hungry for results. Of course this is not going to be the same with everyone.
Some people will just roll over and take what is given to them. They are lazy and could not give two shits.
The majority of people chase esteem, they want that prestige, to be put on a pedestal. These are normal human desires.
We are as much driven by our insecurities as our want to succeed.
Our insecurities are telling us we are not good enough at anything. That we are in a position that is unacceptable. It effects our well being.
The big question is should we even talk about motivation.
I mean if something is that hard to achieve, should we even really bother doing it?
I know at certain times in my life I would have been better off it I took the easy road. For example did taking up rowing in high school really end up helping my life? Am I in a better position now because of it? Probably not.
I did it at the time because it was kind of what was expected of me. It was hard, a challenge and I chose to do it. At the time I felt that I just had to do it. That I would be better off for doing it.
But was it worth the pain, the tears and the sweat?
As a human species we like to put ourselves in unnecessarily difficult positions. Sometimes we like to make life harder for ourselves that’s for sure.
Looking back I would have been better off on occasions if I did the opposite of what my Mum told me to do.
Not everyone has the best intentions or knows what’s going on in your life.
Sometimes you have to cut through and go for your own path. This presents challenges in itself. Often the toughest decisions are hard at first but then it gets easier and easier.
If you don’t make the tough decisions, the ones that rustle feathers it may be easier in the short term but in the long term you will be much worse off.
You could say that this is about having the balls. Defying those around you and following the path for you, the path which is right.
When we talk about motivation it shouldn’t be about doing what is hard, it is about doing what you really want to do.
Because getting what we want is hard. There are people out there who don’t want you to get what you want.
They are less happy so they will try to block you. The way you handle these situations is what will make or break you.
Often what will happen when you go for something you really want is there will be some initial opposition. Expect it, prepare for it.
What you have to tell yourself in this situation, is no matter how negative the opposition is. It is because they want a piece of what you are going for.
This knowledge will make it much easier for you to handle this situation. It is important not to act on the defense to any opposition that you come up against.
If you go on the defense you’ve lost and given in to them.
At the same time it is important to listen. The person opposing you might have a point. Maybe you are doing the wrong thing.
Part of living a life on your terms involves pushing the barriers and listening carefully to feedback.
At this moment you can take what you need and ignore the rest.
If you take the leadership position eventually your opposition will give up or jump on board with you.
It might not happen straight away. They might keep being a dick for a good long while. Just don’t lose your focus on what it is that you really want.
Aim to form a relationship with your opposition. This way you will eventually be able to attain what it is that you really want so bad.
You may need to make a compromise. The person in your face might even offer some value. Getting what you want is all about the way you relate with others.
So when we talk about motivators, it’s not about how to get through the day, how to cope with your situation.
It is about grabbing life by the balls and dealing with opposing forces, ultimately being a leader.