It should be noted first that things are often harder than they look. Most of us when we are younger we are dreamers. We dream of representing out country in sport, becoming a rock star, whatever it is. As we grow older we realise that these dreams are probably never going to materialise.
When we are adults all we can do is focus our energy on things that are going to have an impact. Things that are going to bring in results. From there we can try to get better. Naturally you will get better. It is a natural progression.
We can now look at the various ideas I have. This is by no means an exhaustive list. What I have done is brainstormed what I think are the things that will set you up for success:
Experiment with different things – you are never going to find your true calling in life unless you dabble around a little bit. Here you will be able to find what you are really into, what really gets you off. At this point you should really follow your heart and your gut instincts. Dive head first into the thing that you are really into. It can be anything: music, partying, painting etc. Really make sure that you love doing it. Without passion involved success is going to be difficult to attain. It is important that at this stage you are focusing on yourself.
Build a Lifestyle Around your passion – once you have found what you are really into, start devoting a good chunk of your time to it. Eventually it is going to start effecting every other aspect of your life: your relationships, where you shop, your sleep patterns, everything. You will realise soon enough that your quality of life will go up. You are living the dream, following your heart’s desire.
Try to gain momentum– gaining momentum is one of the toughest things to achieve. It requires consistent effort at something. But when you are doing something you enjoy momentum is easy to achieve. When you enjoy doing something you can really go in depth into. Keeping in mind that there are people out there who hate what you enjoy doing. So, keep going until you are able to carve out a valuable niche in your space.
Finding your niche – After a while your niche should become apparent. It will generally be the result of your own preferences. It could be a certain aspect of your passion. You could say that it is a niche within a niche.
Having a passion does not necessarily mean that you are the best at doing that. For example, there are many passionate golfers who have high handicaps. Their ability level doesn’t decry their enjoyment or usefulness at the sport. For example, someone with a high handicap might be great at organising golf trips. They will be responsible for everything from booking flights, hotels, organising everyone and the list goes on.
Become valuable – once you have your niche down pat you can keep working until you become really good at it. When you become a valuable member of the community you will really start to feel good. Someone might say on top of the world. That sounds a little farfetched, however there is no doubt about it that you are going to start feeling much better off.
The value you provide to the community through your activities is going to have a positive impact on every other aspect of your life. Whether it is in your personal life (you’ll be making new friends), your work life (achieving a nice work-play balance) or your family life (providing wellbeing to your family).
It all ties into it. Without a doubt your usefulness within the community will have a roll-on effect. You will enjoy a higher self-esteem which will roll-on to every other aspect of your life. You will become a better brother/sister, son/daughter, basically you will become a better person in general. When you have a part within a community it really does begin to make you feel better as a person.
People will see you as someone who is actively involved. They will trust you and go to you for help. On other occasions, they might have ignored you or turned their attention to something else. Except now you have a purpose and you are doing things that are beneficial to other folks within the community.
It takes a lot of hard work to get to this stage. Mainly because you must dedicate a lot of hours to build that rapport. It can be achieved but requires consistent dedication. The increase in self-esteem will be hard earned. It takes a long time to build up trust and a reputation. But if you are doing something you genuinely enjoy repeatedly, people will slowly start to give you that trust.
It is something that is not earnt without genuine care for what you are doing. It can possible take years to get there, but eventually it will come if you are persistent.
Dig deep during the struggles – we all know that in any success story there is an epic battle. That is why success tastes so sweet because it was so hard fought. If it was handed to us it wouldn’t really be a success story, would it? It would just be luck.
When you are working hard at something you enjoy it doesn’t really feel like work. I mean we all have those bad days at the office, but for the most part your life is pretty good. When we are doing something we enjoy there are still going to be struggles. We still want to keep getting better and better. It’s human nature. But it is so much better if you really put your head down and work for it. Sometimes it is the struggle that makes it worth it.
Get super involved – things work best if you fully embrace the community. Don’t be abrasive, embrace all the unique personalities involved. This way you will make the best impact. Look to develop good relations with everyone else, stay positive.
If you are enthusiastic people will look up to you a lot. They will love your involvement and you will become an asset for the organisation. After that you will be able to leverage your other skills. People will enjoy working with you, you will have a good rapport.
You need to try to find your own unique position within the community. Once you are there people will become adept to your personality, and you to theirs. You will feel a sense of belonging and esteem. Success will come once you become a valuable member of the community.
There is no guideline to how to become successful. It is a complex thing to discuss. What does success even entail? Is it success in relationships, financial independence, happiness? Generally, I consider success to mean you are doing well overall. There are many facets to success in life. Like there are many multimillionaires who are not happy people.
Try to get a better attitude – having a good attitude is not something that is handed to you. You have to work your tail off for a good one. It requires dedication and perseverance just like any other skills. You see those people that are just so awesome. They weren’t always like that. Their determination and talent saw them develop an awesome attitude that people love.
Getting a good attitude is tough stuff. Sometimes it requires a complete turn around in uncomfortable deep beliefs. These thoughts are not going to give up. It is a fight, everything is a fight. So keep fighting against the bad and get people on your side.
I believe success comes from doing what you love and then leveraging your other talents. Everyone has something to offer. When you are doing something you like, you can get deeply involved. As you build momentum you will start to gain a sense of purpose and even praise from other people.
Let’s be honest we live in a super competitive world. Unless you are doing something great you are not going to be praised and then receive the roll-on feel good effect.
When you become good at something you have value to offer to a community. Getting deeply involved in something will allow you to become better. That is why it is better to follow your gut feelings and go where you feel you will be valued the most.
There is so much that is better off being left unsaid. At the same time, there are many people who have no purpose in life. It is sad that these people have been unable to find direction. You cannot become successful by being alone. You must become part of something much bigger than yourself and then leverage your own unique talents.